I would say this is easily in my top 5 least popular answers, but it’s the truth so here goes…

Souls incarnate into this vibrational level to experience an intense range of feelings and emotions that are unique to this vibrational level. 3D tactile sensory perception is also unique to this level. 

It should be understood that any concepts of right and wrong are based upon human/collective consciousness belief systems. Right and wrong need not exist on other vibratory levels when unconditional love is the unifier and basis for all expression.

Sovereign freewill is an attribute of consciousness, therefore there are agreements that take place in all shared experiences perceivably “good” or “bad”. So in this instance the person in question agreed for that situation to take place. 

You have an aggressor and a victim, both of which are in agreement for the situation in question to take place and nothing simply happens “out of the blue” or by happenstance.

Judgment is a human consciousness phenomenon in which various laws are enforced to restrain the expression of evil in your vibrational level. In the spirit world there is no judgment because there is no expression of evil. And with no expression of evil there exists no concept of right and wrong. 

Since there exists no concept of right and wrong souls choose to incarnate in order to experience concepts of right and wrong. This is the reason souls agree to play aggressor/victim roles in your vibrational level.

Some agreements are made prior to incarnation on a macro level, and other agreements are made on a micro level with fine-tuning occurring in accordance with the freewill nature of the soul and its decisions throughout its lifetime.

These micro agreements occur in what you refer to as your dream state. A veil that you agree to be limited to prevents you from perceiving these agreements with other souls in order for your reality to seem more immersive and intense. Again, you incarnate to experience an intense range of feelings and emotions that come from you not perceiving who you are through the veil.

Sometimes you get glimpses of the scenarios these agreements will take place in as you call it “Deja Vu”. This dream state possesses different properties and is not limited by space or time, hence why you’ll never see any denomination of time -like hands on a clock for example.

The dream state is also a meeting place for souls to meet and discuss various agreements and potential agreements so it’s quite normal to meet people in your dreams who you don’t recognize as you work to construct potential agreements and scenarios. You might also interact with souls that have passed on, or even notable figures as the dream state is a step closer to that between incarnation state making it easier for disembodied souls to fellowship with you.